17 signs that frugality has gone too far

There is such a thing as being too frugal. How to figure out if you've crossed the line.

By MSN Money partner on Thu, Mar 3, 2011 9:45 AM

This guest post comes from Kathryn Vercillo at Financial Highway.

Frugal living is a smart choice. However, like all things, frugality can be taken to the extreme. The following 17 signs may be a sign that you will want to reassess your reasons for being frugal.

1. You spend many, many hours a week on frugality. Whether it's clipping coupons or reworking your household budget, frugality takes time. If you're spending more time on being frugal than enjoying your family, you may want to re-evaluate the situation. Remember that your time is worth money. If you feel too busy and don't have time to do the things that you want to do in life, you may be spending too much time on living frugally.
2. You go without things that you need. Frugal living isn't meant to make your life uncomfortable. If you don't have what you need, you've gone beyond just being frugal.
3. You feel isolated. When frugal choices prevent you from living a social, active life, something has gone wrong. Learn more about frugality and isolation.
4. You hoard items just because you get a good deal on them. This isn't being frugal. It's not a good deal if you buy something that you don't need and won't use. Nobody needs 500 toothbrushes, even if they do cost only a penny each.
5. You can't let things go because you might need them someday. This is another example of how frugality can be related to hoarding. You think that you're being frugal by saving money on some future item that you may or may not need, but what you're really doing is cluttering up your life today.
6. You hate being frugal but feel like you have to. If you resent the activities that you're engaging in to be frugal, you're not living a high quality of life. Consider making other frugal choices that you do enjoy. There are many different ways to be frugal; it should be something that you enjoy doing.
7. You compromise your safety. Choosing to eat expired foods without knowing if they're safe because you don't want the money to be wasted is an example of dangerous frugality.
8. You are in competition with others about how frugal you can be. Although it's nice to compare notes and tips on frugality, you shouldn't feel like you have to one-up the people that you know by saving more than they do. Frugal living can be community-minded and based on sharing. (Check out the concept of collaborative consumption.)
9. You never treat yourself to something indulgent. It's important to spoil ourselves now and then. You shouldn't constantly go without because you want to be frugal. Of course, your indulgences should be few and far between and worked into a smart budget, but they should definitely still be a part of your life.
10. People frequently tell you that you're being stingy. Others sometimes have a better grasp than we do on when our good habits have gotten out of control and have become bad habits.
11. You compromise your values and ethics just to save a buck. Is that really how you want to live?
12. You ask people for more than you give them. For example, you host a potluck party but don't contribute a dish of your own, or you invite someone on a date and expect them to pay.
13. Your home lacks really basic items. For example, you don't have a bed because you sold it and sleep on the floor to save money. If your home doesn't have the basic things that most homes have, you've gone too far with being frugal. If you no longer have a home, things are really out of control.
14. It stresses you out to spend money. If even making normal payments causes you stress, you may have a problem.
15. You'd rather save money than earn money. An income is crucial if you're going to have financial stability. If you're spending valuable time saving money when you could be using that time to earn money, things may be out of control.
16. Money is all that you talk about. If you can't have conversations about other interests in life, it's possible that frugality has become an obsession instead of just a tool to improve your life.
17. You don't think there's such a thing as being "too frugal." Clearly, you no longer know where the line is and that means you've probably crossed it.

If you notice these signs in your own life, stop and ask yourself whether or not your frugal choices are allowing you to live the life that you truly want to lead. There are many different options for living frugally, and you should choose the ones that enhance your life rather than take away from it.

Autumn Harvest

Autumn is here, and so is our appetite for the season's ample variety of apples. From Idared to Golden Delicious to Northern Spy, these fresh-picked fall fruits are good to the core.
But, as they say, one bad apple spoils the bunch - so make sure you grapple the very best apples.

1. When is the best time to buy apples?
"Here in the Northeast, the time is right now! The apple harvest season starts in August and lasts through November. Granny Smith and McIntosh apples are especially seasonal for this time.
These days you can buy apples all year round from different suppliers around the world, but August through November, you’ll have incredibly crisp and juicy apples."
2. How do I pick a great apple?
"A ripe apple should be crunchy and sweet. The best way to test if an apple is ripe is to squeeze it. The flesh should feel firm, without any soft or brown spots.
Gala apples should be a sweet, snappy, aromatic apple that is usually red-and-yellow-striped when ripe. Granny Smiths should be firm, medium grain apples - with bold, sweet and sour bursts in every bite. Fujis should be aromatic and juicy with a spicy, crisp sweetness. Golden Delicious should be a crisp, clean apple with extremely mellow flavors, while Red Delicious should have a strong sweet presence and only a few notes of acidity.
McIntosh apples should be white and have a tender, crisp flesh that’s spicy, highly aromatic and full of juice. You should always consider why you are buying apples (cooking, baking or eating raw) because that makes a difference. Once you get home, you can keep your apples in the refrigerator for up to three days if you plan on eating them raw."
3. What’s the most popular kind of apple?
"During native apple season, there are two apples that stand out far and above any other varieties. First is the Honey Crisp because as the name says, it’s sweet like honey and crisp to the bite. Honey Crisps have a short season, only six to eight weeks.
The second most popular is the Macoun, which is a sweet, tart, and crispy apple from New England, but that also has a short window of availability. When Honey Crisp and Macoun are not available, people go for the super sweet and crunchy Gala apple followed by Granny Smith."
4. What’s the best apple to use for cooking?
"When making a pie, you can really use any apple you like, but a firmer apple, like Cortland, Golden Delicious or Granny Smith works really well. Those won’t break down like the softer varieties, such as McIntosh, which can get mushy.
You can even try a 50/50 blend of the Cortland and Granny Smith in your pie for added flavor. When making apple sauce, use Granny Smith or McIntosh. These apples feature bold flavors and lots of juice, making them perfect for sauce."
5.What are the best ways to use apples this harvest season?
"Apple cider donuts and apple pie are delicious but I’m always watching my waistline, so I was given a new recipe to try at home the other night. Chop up a few apples, put them in a roasting pan, then drizzle some Vermont maple syrup over them. Follow with a few shakes of ground cinnamon and put it in the oven for about an hour. My whole family loved it.
If you aren't watching your waistline, try this French-style apple tart."

Pastry cream:
2 large egg yolks
3 tablespoons sugar
1 tablespoon all-purpose flour
1 tablespoon cornstarch
1 cup whole milk
1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
Tart:
1 large egg
1 sheet frozen puff pastry, thawed according to package directions
2 medium Gala apples, peeled, cored, and sliced
1/2 cup apricot preserves
To prepare the pastry cream: In a mixing bowl, with an electric mixer on medium speed, beat the egg yolks and sugar to form ribbons. Mix in the flour and cornstarch. In a small saucepan, over medium heat, bring the milk to a boil. Remove 1/2 cup of the milk and gradually whisk the hot milk into the egg mixture. Gradually whisk the egg mixture back into the hot milk. Cook for 5 minutes, stirring constantly, or until the mixture thickens and coats the back of a spoon. Return the mixture to the mixing bowl and mix well. Stir in the vanilla. Pour into a large bowl. Cool slightly, then cover the surface completely with plastic wrap. Refrigerate the custard for 1 hour or until cold. (Pastry cream may be prepared up to 1 day in advance.)
To prepare the tart: Preheat the oven to 400°F. In a small bowl, beat the egg with 1 teaspoon water. Place the puff pastry on a lightly floured cutting board. Cut a 1-inch strip off of each side of the pastry. Using the egg wash, brush a 1-inch border around the edges of the center piece of puff pastry. Place the strips onto the brushed border, folding the corners over to form another layer. Brush the border with the egg wash. Spoon or pipe the pastry cream onto the center of the puff pastry. Place the apples over the cream and bake for 20 to 25 minutes, or until golden brown and puffed. Remove from the oven and let cool on a rack for 15 minutes. In a small saucepan, heat the apricot preserves and 3 tablespoons water. Brush onto the apples. Serve warm or refrigerate to serve cold later.

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Glorious Fall

As I prepare for my favorite season, I find it brings me so much joy and contentment. I walk Bailey every morning and see the deer along the ravine and the foliage changing colors right before my eyes, see the once raging river turned into a babbling brook. I enjoy the sounds, smells and sights of fall. I find a spring in my step as I walk Bailey, (sometimes twice a day just to be close to the nature that makes me feel so happy)!
Today was a good example, after walking 3 miles, I stopped to let Bailey off her lead and let her play in the once raging river. She finds such peace and you can see her smile as she gallops off to run through the water, never showing signs of the water being too cold. She runs up and down the bank at a full speed and in this moment I can see she is trying to heal from the death of her buddy, Harley a few weeks ago. She is learning to be independent and rely on her senses and Mother Nature is assisting her. In this moment I watch her go from being such a nervous Nellie to a strong and sure lab as she was intended.
Death is never easy on anyone in a family. Least of all the pets. They have their own rhythm with life and seem to take things as they come.(?) I enjoy our "zoo",as we have dubbed them. They are a lot of work but am happy to know we rescued many of them out of some pretty bad situations. It is nice to see them growing healthy and happy as they progress in their individual recovery of the traumas and injustices they have endured in their short lives. It is a sence of accomplishment I feel each day as Remmington and Chipmunk climb up my step stool to beg for treats for the uptenth time that day, or when Bailey learns a concept with such ease. I am glad I have been blessed with these precious souls and have been able to give them such a better quality of life they never had.
As you consider your holiday list this year; I implore you to go to a shelter and donate some time, materials or even bring home a fuzzy lifetime friend. The joy they give to you and your family is irreplaceable in a store bought gift. IAMS Home For The Holidays is a wonderful gift to give to your family and a furry friend that might not be given a second chance if it was not for you.

It's been almost a month since I last wrote. I apologize for anyone who might be paying attention! Three deaths in 2 months has been a little tough to handle.
I've been busy canning and preserving the summers fruits and veggies and creating new recipes for my family to enjoy.  This year I made mixed berry syrup, maple syrup and red raspberry syrup along with: applesauce, apple butter, pear butter, salsa and various dried fruit and fruit leather. I love the fall and all the cooking that comes with it. I have many favorite recipes and hope you are willing to share yours with me too! Stay posted and I will include some holiday ideas and recipes!
Thanks for your support! And Happy Fall!